Jul 09 2008
To Posse or Not to Posse?
Lately I’ve been having an abundance of relationship talks, both with the girls and without. Maybe, just maybe, I kind of want to be in one? *Shrugs*
Last week Giselle and I decided to do a double happy hour day. As if one isn’t enough! Really, you can never have too much happy hour. First stop Newsroom Café (just across Robertson from the infamous, paparazzi infested Ivy). Then we headed around the corner for sushi and mojitos at one of our staples: Chaya Brasserie.
Anyhow, as usual, there was some discussion of men: the one’s we’ve had, the one’s we want, the one’s we can’t seem to get rid of and, most importantly, the one’s that seem to be non-existent. Which men are non-existent? Those that realize it’s time to settle down and want to be in a committed relationship.
It’s funny because each girl in our group – even in our respective extended groups – is single. Each and every one. And each and every one of us is pretty fabulous in her own way.
Side note: I keep promising stats on everyone. Maybe next week while I’m out of town I’ll do mini profile posts? We’ll see.
So, my theory is that there is just a trend. When one of us is not dating anyone seriously, none of us are. I was talking to my male buddy at work yesterday though and he asked what would happen if one of us did actually start dating someone. Hmmm. He suggests that Ms. New Relationship would likely ditch the clan and it would then force us to get our own men.
Giselle and I concluded it to be likely that if one of us got a beau, the others would likely follow suit - naturally, like by osmosis. But instead of tapering off we’d just become some big couples group. LOL.
How does it work? When you’re attached, do you ditch your friends and get all wrapped up into your SO (significant other)? Or does SO start hanging with you and your pals, and you with his until you just form some really big posse? Do tell.
I think there’s a period of time when both things happen. For a while, the couple basks in each other, and then when the jets start to cool, they can let others back into their little bubble.
Haute,
I can say I dissed my friends for my male and ended up wondering what happen to them when I realized that I lost myself in the relationship. I think you should have that time with your male to get to know him without your friends around and then bring him around your friends so they can make sure you are not just blinded by what’s going on. I was lucky that my male and I had some of the same friends, but I do know someone who wasn’t so lucky and now she’s married with two kids and shops to hide how unhappy she is.
Can one of us start dating someone already then??? I unfortunately tend to ditch but I’m trying really hard to change that.