Jun 17 2008
Online Dating: What’s the Allure, Exactly?
Last night I had a social//meeting with one of my “groups.” Any self respecting Social Butterfly has different groups for different activities and interests, so as to stay…social. As an aside, I’m oddly very hungover and I only had ONE glass of champagne. Maybe it was cheap? I don’t know.
Anyway I chatted it up with three different women, all of whom are proponents of online dating. But why?
Lady #1
Great girl, really pretty and very successful in her field. I’ve known her about two years. Last year we were each others date for Valentine’s Day (she and her beau had broken up about a week before). Since then she’s been the queen of online dating and even convinced me to join at some point. However, if online dating was really serving its purpose you wouldn’t have to keep trying every new site, would you? Wouldn’t you have found someone by now?
Sunday, she went on a date with a great guy and sent me a text saying “Isn’t it horrible when you have a great first date then immediately assume you’ll never hear from them again!?!” Uh, yeah! That seems to be her trend: great first date, guy promises to call and then nothing.
Lady #2
I met her through Lady #1. She also rallied around the flag to get me to join this dating site. That was a year ago. Last night I asked her how it was going and she said “I hate [that dating site]. I’m on [this other “perfect match” driven dating site] now and it’s great!” When I asked if she’s met anyone special she said “no, I had a horrible date from there the other night. But I’m always on a date, so at least I feel like I’m doing something.” That makes it sound like career building or something. Should dating be task driven??
Lady #3
This is my girl! I love her to pieces. She’s been on that same dating site forever and also convinced me that I needed to join (did I mention that I hated that site and cancelled my membership after 2 months?). Her story is always the same: the guy wasn’t her type, the guy got too clingy too fast, the date sucked, the guy asked her to pay… blah blah blah.
Every one of them wants something special, but hasn’t found it. We wonder if it’s the L.A. pool of men on that site.
One of our engaged friends was listening in on all of this and said ever so enthusiastically “I know four couples that got married from [that site]! Keep going, it’ll happen!!!” I wonder if she secretly works for them because it has NOT happened yet!
What are your online dating testimonials? For it? Against it? Had 10 booty calls from it and gave it up? Do tell!
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I would prefer to date someone that I know. I like to meet new people and never seem to attract men. I did not say they were great men, but I do meet them without a dating site. Of course, the way my luck has been with this one I got now, maybe online dating is a though. LOL
I actually signed up for one of the websites for one month to see whether it was all it was cracked up to be. First off, I signed up and the first three guys that showed up I already knew from around LA. Now thats a problem. Either I am not opening up my eyes or this thing is broken, cuz I’m not sure these guys are matches.
Next, I said what the heck, let me meet up with this one reasonably okay guy. Well, first off, he didn’t look like his picture. Secondly, he went on and on about people who “perpetrate” on their profiles at dinner, when all the while I was thinking that he was nothing like his profile. Lastly, he came up with this computer software that provides an additional filter through all of the dating websites (he had to join all i guess) and picks out the profiles that he should date then alerts him when there more pertinent matches. I thought this was a problem, since (a) thats a little too much computer geek for me and (b) he should spend some time outside meeting people, he’d probably have better luck.
Either way, I found that the sites don’t work for me. However, it did prompt me to give those three guys a second thought……..haha
I’ve seen relationships start online and end up serious, but it doesn’t always work. I’ve tried it myself, and I just don’t know about it really.
Gina
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I’ve tried online dating and various dating sites with the intention of finding a wife for about a year (up to this Jan). I have learned a whole lot from my experiences with using the online dating avenue. Plus I met a few really good friends that helped me grow and vice versa. The online thing has been ALL good for me even though I’m not married and neither of my two dating relationships, which were facilitated online, worked out. This is on top of me getting my feelings hurt couple times and played like a fool by a woman who wasn’t what she said she was. But now she’s much closer to God than before…my hurt feelings and time were good expenses in my book. And now I?’ll protect myself from situations like that in the future…so it’s all good.
Online dating was good for me because I didn’t get out much and also I’m very selective about dating because of who I am and my faith and the amount of ungodliness in our world. In my personal experience, I’ve used Christian dating sites that seemed most likely to have the most viable candidates for me using that site.
Online dating or not, I think the wisest step for a person trying to find their special someone is to clearly define and consider only viable (Biblical and personal) candidates. I always get tripped up cuz I don’t consider the “viable” aspect sometimes cuz all that other stuff gets in the way of proper judgment. Lol
Anyway, God is in control and I thank Him for giving man the abilities to create the internet and online dating. It really is awesome!
If you’re interested a couple sites I used were:
www.christiancafe.com
http://www.adventistsinglesconnection.com/ (there are some open minded ones out there)