Dating: The Code of Conduct
The other day I mentioned that I might post some of my standards, rules if you will. These rules are by no means popular. Why? Well…not many have the amount of self control and lack of neediness that I possess. I don’t think I can post the entire thing at once though. So I’ll start with the most controversial.
#1 I don’t call men. EVER. I’ll return your call. I’ll answer when you call me (assuming that I like you and have time to talk).We’ll definitely converse, but not because I called you.
Why, you ask? I was taught that men should be pursuing women. That if a girl is sitting around calling boys (when I was younger) then the boy doesn’t get to play “his role” so to speak. In essence, the natural order is messed up. So if I’m calling you all the time then I feel like I’m doing the pursuing and thereby doing nature a injustice. This has always worked for me. And honestly, not one man as ever noticed that I’m not calling him. Not because he didn’t want to talk to me. But because they ALWAYS call, I answer, we talk and make plans to talk later (or whatever).
I’ve gotten so much flack for this from my close male friends for this! They think it’s rude, presumptuous and selfish. But mostly they’re mad because before I admitted it, they didn’t realize that they were the ones always doing the calling.
I only broke this rule once and it turned out very, very badly. And I’ll tell you more about that and another of the gems from my “Code of Conduct” tomorrow.
*I can already hear (see) what a specific someone is going to say. But I want the men to think hard: How many times can you recall the woman doing the calling? Or, do you even mind being the one to call?
