Single in L.A.

Okay, so you’ve approached the girl.  You even managed NOT to say anything like “I must be sleeping or maybe you’re tired because you are the Dream Girl that’s been running through my mind all night.”  Perfect.  Go you!  Now, call her up and engage in a little get to know you chat.  But don’t stretch it out. 

Many people fail to realize that there’s only so much talking over the phone and texting that a busy, single girl likes to do. And, if possible, minimize the texting – at least in the beginning.  We may engage in it, but we take guys so much more serious when we can actually hear his voice (at reasonable – not “sneaking around behind someone’s back” times).  So talk to her a couple of times and then set up a nice date.

A nice date, you ask?  Nice, contrary to popular belief, does not always mean expensive.  It does, however, mean thoughtful.  Being thoughtful includes giving your Dream Girl a little advanced notice.  Don’t call us on Thursday trying to make plans for Friday or Saturday.  Even if your schedule just cleared up (which is code for my other date cancelled or all of my friends have dates already) resist doing it.  You missed your window of opportunity because that girl is likely already busy, and if she’s not she’s going to act like it.  Why?  Well, a new guy, no matter how much we like him, should be trying to impress us, at least until we’ve gone out 3 times.  So try and call us by Wednesday (afternoon not night right before you’re hitting the sack).  We like forethought, not afterthought.

Got it?  Great!  You’re on your way.  Now, another “nice” thing to do is to take us to a decent restaurant (if we’ve decided to eat). You’re trying to impress her, remember?

 
Here’s a little gem from my single, L.A. dating diary. A few months ago I made ADVANCE plans to get together with a guy that had been trying to go out with me for a few weeks.  Professional, respectful, cute and funny guy. Finally I make room in my very busy schedule for what’s sure to be a great date.. Where does he take me?  Some greasy –spoon burrito stand with no tables.  Yup, I was all dressed up, sitting at the counter of El Tarasco!  Think I’m still dating him??? 

There are plenty of great restaurants that don’t cost an arm and a leg.  Be creative.  Make a reservation and, please, make sure they have proper seating. 

Tomorrow you’ll get my Golden Rule.  Tell all your guy friends to tune in

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