Jun 04 2008
You Want a Date? It’s All in Your Approach
Fella, if you’d like to engage in a little bit of:
Instead of:
Pay very close attention.
Further to my introduction of a little “how to” guide, I think it’s paramount to start you guys off with the most important thing: your approach. If you can’t do that right, it’s essentially curtains for you. Mess up this very simple, simple thing and she’ll never get to know if you’re a funny man, sexy man, old man, young man, black man, or even a hairy old black man that happens to be really quite nice.
Men often think that those cheesy lines are clever. Even worse, they KNOW they’re cheesy but think “at least I’ll get a laugh.” Wrong! The laugh is not a laugh with you. It’s an uncomfortable “oh my gosh that was the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. When is this guy going to go away” laugh-at-you type of laugh.
The long and short: don’t do it. What should you do? I read the smartest thing ever on a dating blog here on today.com the other day. The best pick up line is no line at all.
Give us women some credit. We’re smart enough to figure out if you’re funny, charming, witting or successful without you shoving it down our throats. A simple “Hi my name is [Dude interested in you]. Can I talk to you for a minute?” It works!!!
What doesn’t work? Glad you asked. Just yesterday I was walking up the streets of Beverly Hills. Cell phone in one hand (mid conversation), handbag and office tote in the other. A man walking by must have liked what he saw, but since I was on the phone he didn’t know how to get my attention. What does he do?
He stops dead in front of me so I can’t get by. I try to go around (while continuing my conversation) but he blocks me. When he sees that I’m not paying attention he says “Damn, I’m trying to tell you how good you look today.” Really? How so? I couldn’t figure it out.
Bombarding me is not the key. Cursing at me is most certainly not the key. Respectfully approaching a woman at a convenient time for both of you (not when you’re mid Tourrette style rant) is, in fact, the key. And no “lines” are needed. I promise!
Aha, moment? Thought so. Keep it simple. Tune in tomorrow.
total agreement, just come out and say it. Men always say us women make them read between the line but I think it goes both ways.
Great advice. Hopefully some men out there will take it.
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I beleive they should just say whats on their little minds and be done with it. My favorite was a guy from my old neighborhood trying to pick me up.
He said, “You look the same as you did all those years ago. You are still so pretty, you have not changed a bit. I liked you then and I still like you now. I love your long blonde hair it was always so shiny”
My first problem with this was that my hair was a dull dirty blonde all those years ago, I have since brightened it up to a shiney blonde. The second problem was that I weighted 100 pounds then and now I weigth 160.
I guess when I started laughing at him, I offended him becasue he soon left.
I am so cruel. LOL
LoL, that’s too true! Even though I’m married, I have to admit to still hearing them all the time though. Fortunately at this stage its my husband being silly and trying corny pickup line on me when we’re out on the town. What wouldn’t have worked when I was single, is now just used for a laugh. So guys… skip them when you’re single… once you’re attached, use them for the yuks!
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