Jun 03 2008
Teach Men to Date
So, of course, dating is a huge part of any single girl’s (or guy’s) life. However having lived in L.A. and in the Midwest, I realize that dating styles differentiate based on regions. Boy, have I got some stories. And though it might seem like a lot of fun to be single, footloose and fancy free in a place like Hollywood you should know that that’s not the case! For me anyway. Dating gets old. Meeting people and doing the whole get-to-know-you song and dance is beyond tiring. When said song and dance lead nowhere and you end up on yet another first date a few days after the last one, it becomes frustrating.
I conducted a poll recently amongst men and found out that men are actually confused about some key dating facts!! Who knew? Well, I kind of figured, based on the way things were going. But I now have proof!
I know we’ve all read – or heard of (you read it! No need to lie.) how to guides like The Rules,
and the ever so popular “get a clue and love yourself guide” He’s Just Not That Into You.
However, those books speak directly to women for the most part. How to find a man. How to keep him interested. And, hey here’s how to seal the deal and get that guy to marry you.
What are we, chop liver? How about teaching the men how to get us??? Quite frankly, they don’t seem to really know. I’ve noticed, in L.A. specifically but it certainly isn’t restricted to the West Coast, that in this day and age men are treated like the prize. Women are jockeying for position to get one of “the few good men” left. Please! I call BULL – ISH! There are tons of great guys out there, we simply haven’t noticed them. Why? According to my poll, men themselves said they’re not sure what to do.
Luckily, you have me. Thank me later, guys and gals. Today is day one in a multiple article series about teaching men how to date. Sorry for the teaser, but, hey you gotta lure them in and keep them guessing (hint to women: take note of that).
What makes me qualified? Well, I’m single and reasonably (if not remarkably) attractive so I happen to go on dates (or what L.A. men try to convince me are dates). I like going on dates with men, especially when they’re really great dates! But those are few and far between these days. So I see it as my civic duty to help you put your best foot forward – and I owe it to myself (as I’d like to be the beneficiary of such efforts). So consider these articles my PSA.
Guys think we should just fall at their feet. They need a wake up call!
We are the mothers of the next generation of male daters, we need to make sure that they’re more socially adapt at dating (and chores) then their father’s generation were/are!
First, thanks for the comment and second, why do people think they have to try sooo hard?????? Anyway, I think my single friends might like this blog
and I’m a guy with a lot of female friends anyway.
http://waxingpoetically.com/
I’d have to say that, in that sense, I’m more traditional. I’ll definitely let a guy I like know that I like him and reciprocate the attention he gives me.
Suitable response to your “study?”
I think the reason these books are aimed at women is because many women seem to be laboring under the delusion that there are “tricks” or “games” you can learn to “catch” or “trap” a man. I’m not sure guys would buy such a book, but who knows. Why anyone would want to be with someone they had to trick into dating/marrying/staying with them is beyond me.
I think I may write a book for both men AND women called “TRY BEING YOURSELF.”
Incidentally, some of our fathers were excellent at chores, raising kids by themselves, and teaching them to respect the opposite sex (and people in general). We’re not all terrible, you know.